What we usually say: “Thank you, I’m working on it.” What we are really thinking: “Thank you Yoda, Tony Robbins couldn’t have said it any better. Maybe if I just think more positive thoughts. wait, happy thoughts? Then I’ll leave this single world behind and then I’ll leave my cares behind? (if you got the song reference good for you! Hint: Disney) I’m going to Jedi-mind trick myself into a relationship starting right now!”
Again, we don’t really react that snarkily, but you have to understand that we are already working on our attitudes every single day (get the pun?). Singles deal with loneliness, rejection, abandonment, extra stress, etc. all on a weekly if not daily basis. No, we don’t spend our days mopping around because we are single, but at the same time give us some credit for handling it as well as we do. You can come home from a tough day and whine to your spouse. A lot of singles I know go home and whine to their cat, dog, XBox, ice cream or the gym.
So there you have it, some fun insights into the mind of a single-person-looking. More than anything, I hope this article made you laugh and remember what single life was like (if you’re now married) and if you’re single I hope it made you laugh at some of the questions we get asked on a daily basis. Your friends and family love you and mean well, so if they ask these things, just smile and take it in stride.
If they didn’t like you they would try to keep you single in order to save the gene pool. At the end of the day, whether you are single or taken, life is an adventure. Explore it with a grateful heart and joyful spirit!
Do you feel peaceful and secure in who you are and what you’re doing with your life? My personal mantra is to “Live Your Why” – or in other words know who you are, center yourself in your core beliefs and live aligned. Living this way brings serenity and assurance, even when life doesn’t go as planned.
I like to discuss relationships – particularly romantic ones! The Live Your Why Podcast is for people who want to thrive alone and in romantic relationships while living with integrity.
Learn About Tammy Hill
I hold a current and credentialed membership to AASECT hot Nazare women, the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists. In 2014, I was hired by the School of Family Life at Brigham Young University to teach and develop courses on marriage relationships and sexuality. I also teach virtual courses and live workshops to individuals and couples seeking to develop their capacity for deeper emotional and sexual intimacy. Additionally, I offer limited private coaching services to couples who are looking for more direct input on improving their lives and relationships.
I am the author of a children’s book, “God Made Girls & Boys”, a beautiful book addressing families, gender, accountability and agency. This book includes discussion questions to help parents navigate meaningful conversations with their children. 2023, my long-awaited book, “Replenish: Creating Sexual Fulfillment in Marriage”. This is a comprehensive guide to help LDS couples sexually unite in both conversation and practice.
I am a relationship and sexuality educator and coach, as well as a Licensed ily Therapist in Utah
I am an active member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I frequently contribute on the subjects of sexuality, relationships and spirituality to blogs, magazines, religious meetings and podcasts. I am the host of the “Live Your Why” podcast which can be found on any podcast platform. My husband, lover and dearest friend, Jeff Hill, and I are the parents of a blended family with 12 children.
