You send a thoughtful opener to a match, and they never write back. Or, you actually get a conversation going, but then your match suddenly stops replying.
1. Sending a Good First Message
Attractive people on Hinge get tons of messages coming in. Way more messages than they can possibly respond to. So if you want to get responses from matches, then you need to stand out from the huge crowd of other users.
Some of the most effective first messages on Hinge are ones that show the person you’re messaging that you read their profile carefully, are genuinely interested in them, and see something unique in them that sets them apart from anybody else you could be chatting with on the app.
A good tip for strengthening your opening messages on Hinge is to crack a joke, be playful, inject some light flirt, and overall just show your sense of humor.
For more tips on how to send a good first message on Hinge, read our full guide to crafting the best Hinge openers.
2. Using Conversation Starters on Hinge
To get a conversation started with a Hinge match or to keep the conversation flowing, you can use conversation starters to your advantage.
Good conversation starts for Hinge are those that pose an open-ended question that is eccentric and playful and allow for a wide variety of open-ended answers.
For instance, you could ask a match about their dream place to travel, what job they’d work if money didn’t matter, or what made-up field they would want to get a PhD in.
Nobody wants to have the same conversation over and over with every match on Hinge. So be the outlier and help change things up, for yourself and for your matches.
3. Ask Your Match About Something in Their Profile
As you look through a match’s photos and prompts, look for any shared interests, funny prompt responses, or anything that stands out. Look for something there’s likely to be an interesting story behind. This will help you craft more personal and interesting Hinge messages that will make your matches feel more seen, feel more engaged in conversation with you, and more likely to respond enthusiastically.
Show genuine interest in getting to know your match by asking them about specifics from their profile. The more specific, the better. Notice something none of their other matches have noticed about them before.
When messaging a match, be sure to sprinkle in your own relatable experiences or interests, provide some validation, and ask thoughtful follow-up questions, as this will help create a stronger connection between the two of you.
4. Finding Common Interests with a Hinge Match
Discovering common interests is a key part of online dating and can help you have better Hinge conversations that actually thrive, instead of dying out.
As you chat with a match on Hinge, look for shared passions or experiences that can serve as a foundation for connecting, sharing a perspective, and opening topics for further conversation.
By focusing on common ground, you create a feeling of “we” out of “you” and “I” and increase your chances of keeping the conversation engaging and enjoyable for both you and your match.
How to Keep a Conversation Going on Hinge
And because so many people on Hinge ghost after just one or two messages, keeping a conversation going is even harder.
5. Best Conversation Topics for Messaging on Hinge
On Hinge, your main goal is to find compatible matches and then establish an initial connection with those matches by having meaningful conversations.
