1. Too much clinginess too early. Maybe they’re just eager, but maybe they have serious emotional issues going on. Most commonly they aren’t over their ex who recently dumped them and want an immediate replacement instead of putting work into self reflection.
The reason I say it’s a yellow flag is that some people just have incredibly shitty taste in partners, and it’s possible that in a naive pursuit of “love”, they got into a series of abusive relationships
2. Trash talking their exes. Not a dealbreaker, but definitely makes you pause and wonder about the whole ‘two sides to every story’.
3. If they lie about very insignificant things that it was not necessary to lie about in the first place. I get a white lie every once in a while, but if there’s just lots of lies and made up stories that are completely unnecessary it’ll be impossible for me to trust literally everything this person says. It’s a “yellow flag” in the beginning but if I confront them about it and it’s still an issue then it’s a red flag and I’m gone quicker than you can say “Are you calling me a liar. ”
6. If they’ll cancel plans with you because another friend wants to hang out. Once could be a special occasion or a close friend they haven’t seen in a while. Twice means they aren’t respecting you or your time (dealbreaker) and/or aren’t comfortable with you meeting their friends (for any number of reasons that are, in and of themselves, likely dealbreakers).
7. Something I’ve become a lot more conscious of on dates with men specifically is the give and take of the conversation. A lot of them are happy to answer questions and talk about themselves, but don’t ask questions in return. I started noticing it a few years ago and now I sort of use it as an indicator of how much they actually want to get to know me versus how much they just want to talk.
On a similar note, guys who want to hang out pre and/or post sex and feel the need to show me their favorite tv show/YouTube videos. Continue reading
