Anyone who is dating a married man is in need of a reality check. This may not change your final decision, but you can move forward with your eyes wide open. Let me show them so you can think about it.
Dating a married man means sharing him with his wife and likely his children. So be ready that you never going to be number one in his life.
When his time is short, he is always going to choose them. If nothing else, he will need to be highly available to his family to keep your affair a secret. That will always be so – as long as he is married.
To make things worse, you should also accept that married men must be available on demand. If you want to spend time with your lover, he’ll need you be available at a moment’s notice when he is able to get away. So, while he’ll be there for you rarely, but you shouldn’t make plans whenever he is ready to see you.
2. You’re Contributing to Negativity in Relationships Between Women
Does one instance of cheating have a rippling effect that damages important emotional bonds and solidarity among women? Not necessarily, but it does contribute to something negative.
Too many people lean into the inaccurate stereotype that women can’t trust one another. That isn’t just damaging to women in general, but a married man loves that kind of conflict because it creates a power dynamic where he will always end up on top. If you care about sisterhood, don’t do that.
3. This May Never Feel Right
The best relationships feel safe and comfortable. You always know where you stand. You can reach out to your lover anytime. But this is something you’re not going to experience when you date a married man.
There will always be that combination of shame, uncertainty, and unease in your affair. Sure, you may enjoy some really good times with a married man. Continue reading
