Why are you even online dating, if you’re going to negate the primary advantage it has: of filtering out things you don’t want?
To the OP, and other women in NY and similar areas struggling to find dates, it may pay off to relocate to a region with a surplus of single men. posted by 6550 at PM on [2 favorites]
Men are pathetically shallow, even the ones who don’t admit it. If things are going well after a couple of conversations/dates, bring it up as a joke. Don’t worry: that’s not really his boat that he’s standing next to, and he probably doesn’t really like to cuddle. If its that big of a deal for him, then he’s probably not worth the effort. posted by RandlePatrickMcMurphy at AM on [1 favorite]
I don’t think that’s a constructive argument. Being concerned about honesty, even for small things, isn’t shallow, and deflecting it as “men are shallow anyway, so I have to play their game” isn’t a mature way of handling it, IMO. Be honest with yourself and potential partners, and don’t justify a lie with prejudice. posted by floomp at AM on [8 favorites]
Based on my experience, women lying about their age on dating sites is common, perhaps the norm
This. is such a spectacularly bad idea, bolstered by even worse suggestions (post outdated photos of yourself! Admit that you’re lying but insist you’re a special snowflake so it’s ok!), I kind of want to use this thread as an explanation for why online dating sucks: everyone is lying to each other about everything. Continue reading
