Take a look at this photo.
Stare at this photo for a few seconds and upload it into your memory folder titled “never again,” as a reminder of what a healthy relationship really looks like: Two people in their own separate containers (life space). e direction. Looking out at the world and how far they’ve come. Fire in between them.
My old definition of love would be these two people sitting in a bubbling jacuzzi. Jets blasting. Sitting on each other’s laps and facing each other. Drinking champagne and losing track of time. Yes, that sounds amazing. I’ve experienced it. But it’s not sustainable. The water gets hot. You get claustrophobic. You forget who you are.
A healthy relationship is two whole people with separate lives coming together to share their lives. Not to blend into one life. That is called co-dependency. Meshment. And it stunts growth. Continue reading
