Why cheerleaders live happily ever after
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Last summer when my brother was getting married, I inundated him with the science of happily married couples. I wanted to give him a guide to not making the mistakes I had made. My “best woman” toast was very nearly a litany of advice.
It was a bit much for him. “Why would I listen to my DIVORCED sister when it comes to managing my marriage?” he once teased, trying (in vain) to shut me up.
Well, given what I’ve learned about happy marriages, I think there a few good reasons to listen to me-more on that in a minute-but first, I gotta be straight with you: I was not particularly good at being married the first time around. I picked a terrific person-my ex-husband is a great guy-who was totally wrong for me in just about all the ways that count.
Enthusiastic Spouses Have Happy Marriages
I try to practice what I preach, and that means practicing some things that I definitely haven’t mastered yet (like using non-controlling language when I ask my kids to do things). Continue reading
