Of course, sleeping with numerous men while dating is pretty normal, but women rarely talk or write about it. Why? Because there’s a massive stigma around it.
We still expect women to only have sex for love, and if it’s anything outside of that, it makes us uncomfortable.
When I first began dating, I was always monogamous to one person, no matter how casual the relationship was. Even when they made it quite clear that they were sleeping with other people.
Eventually, I got into the pattern of dating multiple people at once because it meant I didn’t get super invested in someone after one date.
I was less likely to spend all day waiting for a text back if I was texting multiple people, and it helped me keep a clear head about the whole thing.
Introducing Lowbrow: Zac Efron & The 2012 Condom Incident
It’s good to know there’s plenty of fish in the sea while dating; otherwise, you could end up settling for a guy who feels threatened by your vibrator.
But I still found the idea of sealing the deal with someone while still dating someone else weird. I suppose it made me feel like I was cheating because I grew up on a diet of romantic comedies and romance novels.
Interestingly, despite the fact the men I was dating weren’t behaving like male leads – I mean, some of them even pretended to be allergic to condoms – I still felt this pressure to act like a female lead in a romantic comedy.
Meanwhile, I was waiting for an awkward text message to end my situationship, so I could consider sleeping with someone I was starting to like. Continue reading
